Monday, May 12, 2008

Personal space and plain speaking

I was attending my regular aerobics class this morning, in the rather large aerobics room. Only one other participant and I, rattling round in the huge space. A third chick walked in - ten minutes late - then stood right in front of me, barely a metre away, and whichever way I moved so I could see the instructor this latecomer with the personal space problem moved back on me. Half way through the class I think she told the instructor she was from Sydney. I had a stuffy Melbournite /Nanna moment where I tsked in my brain about Sydney aerobics manners, but this made me laugh at myself. I don't really think you're rude, Sydney people. But I hope she goes back to you guys soon or my toes are in danger.

I was sitting next to Cherub at the kitchen table when he glanced over at me and said oh you're not in your jarmies. No, I said, I've had my shower. He gave me the once over and then casually and slightly contemptuously stated I don't like you when you're in your jarmies. Sheesh! They're posh Peter Alexander ones and everything. (you can see a bit of them in the kitten pic below) But upon further questioning we established it's a hair thing. He prefers it when my hair is in a ponytail. When I wear my pyjamas my hair hangs loose, and this is not to his liking, apparently. So much for my crowning glory.

I have a deal rule with Climber about the Harry Potter movies; he's not allowed to watch them until after we've read the book to him. This is because I love those books and I wanted him to have the experience of picturing it all in his mind's eye first without the movie doing all the work for him. Anyway, we've recently completed The Order of the Phoenix and on Sunday morning I mentioned that he could watch the DVD, at which he made to disapparate into the lounge room. So I had to call him back and tell him he'd have to watch it at a time when the Cherub was not around, as the HP movies are too scary for the little boy (not to mention the whole book rule thing which I'd quite like to implement for the Second-born but may have trouble enforcing). He agreed politely, but as soon as humanly possible, when Cherub was elsewhere occupied, Climber slipped away very quietly and put the movie on. When I later walked in on him I thought I'd reinforce the No Watching While Cherub's Around agreement so I asked what he would do if Cherub came in, hoping for a turn it off reply. But kids are honest, aren't they? Looking at me as though to check he'd got the right answer he said tell him to get out? I bet he would have, too.

22 comments:

  1. There's a lot of "out of the mouths of babes" about this post.

    No danger of me seeing the Sydney space invader if she comes back here. Aerobics? I can barely spell it!

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  2. I have those jarmies too. I'd still be in them today if I had my druthers.

    But I don't think it's a good look when you're dropping a kid off at childcare if you stay in your jim jams and moccies. Even if the childcare centre is in our street. Although one of the other kids arrived in his jarmies, so maybe it's the new thing.

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  3. I love your "book first" rule. As a huge fan i was so dissapointed that the first movie ruined my mind pictures for me that i have yet to see any of the others - I wanted it back the way I imagined it!

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  4. Love PA jarmies, all of mine have worn to a thread though.
    We have the same rule re: the HP movies!! My daughter is pushing to watch the 4th one but I'm not sure (isn't it rated M?) I loathed the first 2 movies, so I'm not keen to watch it anyway. Let me know how Climber finds it.
    She's read all the books twice now. Expelliarmus indeed. I'm officially sick to death of HP.

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  5. I detest it when people stand right in front of me in exercise classes. And I don't care where they're from :)

    Great rule about HP. My eldest has read all the books, but the little one has seen the movies before reading, which is a shame. I wish I'd had your foresight.

    Heidi

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  6. Sorry - I would have politely, seethingly, said something to Siddeney.

    Or harumphed and plomped in front of HER with much aplomb.

    Because I obviously like getting my face smashed in.

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  7. Ha! Fixit said he would have moved her on too. And she was tiny, I'm pretty sure I could have taken her in a scragfight. I just didn't want to be an aerobics bitch.

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  8. My eldest two used to take great delight in telling the littlest to GO AWAY because they were watching HP and he was TOO YOUNG.

    PS. LazyCow, the 4th one is really scary and horrible in my opinion. That was the point when they got all dark and spooky and full of nasties.

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  9. We wouldn't let NOS see any HP movies until he read the corresponding book. #4 & #5 were a bit rough since the books became voluminous as well as a bit dark.

    NOS -- he is my kid, after all -- is okay with all the dark stuff, but it was the herniating weight of a 700+ page book which vexed him.

    -J.

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  10. Back when HP was new, my youngest read the first one and was captivated. Then he went to see the movie. And had to walk out after the first half hour. They'd got it all wrong, and he didn't want to substitute the movie's idea of the characters for the pictures in his head....

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  11. They say if you grow up in the city, your personal space meter is much less than if you have grown up in the country. I grew up country, & I like a really large personal space!
    Why do people act like clots? Literally, leaving no space at all.

    Your boys are so incredibly good looking!

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  12. I love that look they give you when they hope they're saying the right thing. I try not to laugh, honestly I do.

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  13. I have personal spaces issues.
    I would have planted my knees into her at some point "accidentally" of course.

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  14. Funny, I can picture Cherub's face as he gives you the once over before delivering his scathing (just a touch) opinion of you in your jarmies..... hee hee hee.

    Climber too, for some reason it reminds me of how he was too polite for our Amazing Allysen doll to understand, he couldn't help himself saying yes please, no thankyou, but she isn't programmed to recognise good manners. I've been meaning to blog about that stupid doll, but I'm blog lazy at the moment, so your comment readers will have to read this instead.

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  15. I'm with Stacey.

    Personal Space is very important to me.

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  16. I tell you, Sydney people, just can't do anything with them. They're so used to having the best views they'll do anything to get them, no matter which city they're in.

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  17. I'm a book first kind of person and Rob is the opposite. I'm trying very hard to enforce this rule.... but the testosterone half of our household is resisting. I always prefer the book to the movies, even HP. Hermione looks nothing like I pictured her in my head. And Harry's hair is much too neat in the movies.

    Climber is brilliant. "Tell him to get out." Exactly right.

    You should have made rude comments under your breath about the size of her arse. But just under your breath.... just loud enough for her to hear you.

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  18. If you could have organised it ... a large emission of flatulence and then some very pointed staring at her might have softened her cough for her!

    I love the way kids minds work! On a different level altogether from adults .... keeps us on our toes, I guess!

    We had the read first tradition with 3 of our kids but somehow no.4 slipped under the radar and now I wonder sometimes if he CAN read ..... Sigh.

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  19. You should have made a smell. She would have left. You would have won the day and been a hero to your sons...

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  20. Umm, Melinda I would have had to say man look at that tiny butt, it is smaller than mine, which is probably not so effective. Also Rise and Tracey, I believe farting on demand is a boy trick and I have never mastered it. And I'm not ashamed of that either!

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  21. Don't get me started on gym etiquette...someone ought to write a book, which should be compulsory reading before you get handed your card.

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